ASK A WITCH- Figure it Out

It seems that no matter where we are in life, we all have things to figure out. Sometimes our issues our magical, sometimes mundane, but there are always answers when we're willing to search for them.

Dear Jenna witch, I need to know if we me and the guy I’m in love with are going to be together. I haven’t told him and I don’t know if he loves me. Can you read into my situation? I want him to make a move. I want him to commit for life.

Thanks for reaching out. I make a rule of not “reading into” people’s situations who aren’t clients. It’s a personal boundary I have had to set for my own energetic wellness, as well as being sure I don’t get disturbing information that I can’t do anything about. So, no, I won’t use my psychic energy to try to get a read on your situation. Even if you were a client, the first thing I would advise is for you to have a conversation with the person you are in love with! There’s no need for magic here, just communication. I’m not sure what is happening, are you in a relationship? Or are you loving him from afar? Either way, it’s time to grow up and talk to him about it. You are a long way from a life commitment if you aren’t even sure how he feels about you, so you need to slow way down. Please, please don’t use magic on this person. It is complicated and dangerous. If he feels the same way about you, great, you can take your time easing into a life long commitment. If he doesn’t, now you know, and you can get over it and move onto someone who does want to be with you. Either way, the quickest way to the truth isn’t through magic, just good old fashioned conversation. My advice, move slowly. If you really want to spend your life together, there’s no rush. Good luck.

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Hi, I’m 15 and I’m not currently practicing witchcraft, but I would like to once I learn more about it. I heard that crystals have properties and they can give off energy, so I bought some recently from a metaphysical shop but I can’t feel their energy at all. I also went to a numerologist and he asked me to put my hand over his hand and he put his other hand over my other hand, and he asked if I could feel anything or some sort of connection, but I felt nothing. Is there something wrong with me and why can’t I feel energy?

Hi, thanks for your question. It’s great that you are so young and so open to learning and growing. Witchcraft is a wonderful and mysterious path, wide open with lots of possibilities. There is no right or wrong way to be a witch, and no one way to express it. So, the short answer is no, there isn’t anything wrong with you. Not everyone feels energy, but anyone can learn to do so. The ability to feel energy is also known as Clairsentience, or clear feeling. Basically it is the sense of touch, elevated. Have you ever gotten goosebumps? Or had butterflies in your stomach? If the answer is yes, congratulations, you have experienced Clairsentience! You’ve probably heard of Clairvoyance, the most well known of the “Clairs,” which is the ability to see things that not everyone can see. Each of the senses has an elevated aspect, and while some of us are born with natural abilities, others have to practice more to activate them. You can certainly be a witch without any Clairs, though, in my experience, life can be more interesting with super senses!

To work on your Clairsentience, start by rubbing your hands together until they are hot. Slowly pull them apart and see if you can sense anything between them. If not, no worries! Just keep trying until you can. You are building energy that way, and you may be able to feel it more easily when it’s your own. Once you can feel something (it may feel warm, fuzzy, electric, magnetic…) then take those warmed up hands and run them along your body, a few inches away from your skin, and try to sense your own energy field. Take extra notice of the seven major chakra centers, as they tend to put off more energy than elsewhere (it is easy to find maps of the chakra system online). Be patient, it may take time, but if you do this every day, your heightened sense of touch will grow stronger, and you may be able to start to feel the subtle energy coming off of crystals. Good luck with developing your own personal practice of witchcraft.

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I was wondering if you had any advice on what to do when you've lost hope and all you feel is numbness and despair. I used to believe in magic but now I'm in so much pain that part of me has died. Thanks for reading this.

Thank you for reaching out. I’m sorry to hear that you are such a low place. Of course the first question I want to ask you is, did something occur in your life that brought you here? Or is it a result of clinical depression? You may not have the answer, but, if you aren’t already seeing a therapist, I would suggest that as a first step, to begin to rule out any magical or energetic causes. Our therapists can help us begin to awaken the awareness around the roots of our issues, which is a very important first step in healing.

Since you’re asking a witch though, I will proceed as if this situation has an energetic cause. You may have an entity attached to you, a parasitic being that is sucking your life force. Unfortunately, it’s more common than you might think. While not all entities are malevolent, all are dangerous, and there really isn’t a quick fix to deal with them. While it’s possible that you may be able to move it along on your own, it would take a lot of work and luck, and even then it may not be successful. Possible side effects of entity attachment are feeling unlike yourself, being drained of energy or joy, strange dreams, bodily disassociation, and more. If this sounds like you, I recommend you seek help from a professional. Find your local witch, shaman, medium, psychic, or reiki master, someone who has the training to help you remove this entity and recalibrate your energy field so that it cant’ return.

Another possibility is a curse. Can you think of anyone in your life that may have reason to curse you? Curses unfortunately can be placed consciously or not, and have a wide range of strength. You may be able to break a curse on your own, especially if you know who cast it, but it would still be in your best interest to seek professional help to lift it.

In the meantime, here are a few things you can do on your own, while you look for a healer you trust

- Practice meditation; this could be yoga, guided journey, breath work, or any other form that calls to you. There are classes and apps and guided meditations online, find something that suits you and use this tool to look within. If you hope to break a curse or remove an entity on your own, this step is crucial. It also benefits depression.

-Work with the elements; light a candle or a fire and gaze into the flames, take a cleansing shower, bath, or swim, walk in the woods, dig in the dirt, work with animals, eat fresh food, burn herbs and plants to refresh your space, breathe deeply. These are just a few ways to commune with the divine that is all around us, and form relationships with these powerful forces.

-Journal; write about your feelings, struggles, and any moments of joy you experience. Look for the gratitude in your day. Notice what brings you even a small spark of life and follow it. Along these same lines, indulge in other forms of art as well. Read, listen to music, paint, go to a museum, sculpt with clay, dance, bang a drum, etc. Art opens us up to the magic of the world.

I hope this helps. While I do believe we are capable of so much and can truly heal ourselves, I also know that we need each other. There is no shame in reaching out for help, and no need to continue to suffer. Find a therapist and a witch that you trust. Good luck.